I actually just tweaked the statement to:

I know about the infidelity and I will no longer work on a relationship when there are other parties involved.

So what do you think, let it go through the lawyers or tell her? I don't think I can do it without flipping out this weekend, but don't want to do this on the phone. Should I just wait?

Me 41
WAW 36
S 3&7
M 10 yrs
W files D 1/9/09
W moves out 4/18
Lost job 6/15
New job 7/27
Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!)
Confronted 8/11
Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11
Lost Job 11/13