back after 10 weeks of recovery and need some help

[Doingitright]

Something I have discovered while in this detaching process....
My W was my best friend, my lover, my confidant, my spiritual partner, my partner in making 2 incredibly beautiful and wonderful children, and so many other things to numerous to list.

His is so intertwined that it hurt to the core of my being. That in fell swoop we lost these things in eachother. I know this because my W said I was those things to her and more.
Th challenge is how many of those things can you replace in your process of detachment and how many can you do without. This is where I have made it in my attempt to detach lovingly. The trick is to not let coldness or hurt fill those voids. I am not sure how long this process takes but it has been gut wrenching and eye opening.
I see know how we during marriage make eachother all those things...it is all built on trust. Trust that his person you have married will be those things. And as trust builds and God willing you add more things to that list like children. And now you see how your trust has grown and your love. It all seems to boil down to trust and love. I believe trust comes first when you are dating. Then once it is established love grows. Don't know if it is right or wrong. I am just hoping that this realization will help me move forward.