Oh Mac, don't be in a grump, I was yesterday, but it does no good.
I know what you mean about your W being wonderful and caring, my H is too but that side of him has disappeared at the moment and all I want is for that person to return.
My H seems to think I thought he couldn't afford me either, don't know where that idea came from, never said, it never would.
It is natural to want to analyse and over think, that is human nature. We are after all only human and we still love this person no matter what they seem to do or say to us.
You are allowed a grump day, an over thinking day or whatever you want to do day. I don't have any good wise advice to give only an ear to listen at the moment, but I am thinking of you.