DID XH M OW or not??

[peacetoday]

I have a question
I asked this before but now I am ready

MY therapist wants me to let XH have every other weekend sleepover at his 1 bedroom apt with his new bride
the kids want to be with him more she wants me to have more freedom to pursue other things like spending more time with BF

I spent extra L money preventing xh froim kids meeting OW(Now W)
and I didnt trust her or xh for sleepovers

XH would like conciously hurt his kids
although he is on prescription meds and was a recovering alcoholic for 20 years
I never saw him drink once
now I dont know if he has relapsed although these drugs he takes for anxiety are addictive and he is sometimes slurred or sedated

so my therapuist feels I need to let xh have a regular visitation schdule
I was trying to protect my kids from further harm as I dont know what their R is like
I beleive me letting xh have kids would clear up some anger he is feeling toward me
and Now my main goal is to
peacefully CO PARENT AND
CO-RUN OUR BUSINESS
NOT TO RECONCILE
please give me your suggestions and what you have experienced with this
thanks
peace