Hey You You make it sound like we'll never chat again and I have a pretty good feeling we will.
I agree, if it's possible for you to be friends or as close to it, try that route. I know you won't be this weekend and she deserves to be in "time out" if you will.
Try this....think about how the boys would want you to treat her. Think of how the person you admire the most for the diginity they display, how would they handle this and her? Act accordingly. In the end, your ability to honestly say "I treated you with dignity and respect you earned as the mother of my children despite what you did" is going to be worth SO much in the end, no matter how this turns out.
I think the other thing to consider is that email....the tactical one about the boys....she didn't really need to email you at all. It was an excuse to make contact and an attempt to open a window to play nice.
