My divorce will be final next month. I'm having to deal with the OW be a part of XH's life. She isnt in the same country yet but she has already begun to be a part of my daughter's life in that she selects the clothes that XH buys for my daughter etc.
I'm mentally preparing myself for this and tell myself that I should be glad that she is willing to try to be a part of my daughter's life. I tell myself that I am glad that my daughter will have an extra person who loves her. I know this is really easy to say and very difficult to put into practice.
The fact that my life is so detached from XH helps a lot. I've accepted (althought it hurts) that his GF (who used to be OW) is now part of XHs life. She is going to be part of my daughter's life and for my daughter's sake and happiness I am willing to be accept this. I tell myself that at the end of the day, I can only do the best that I can by my daughter and trust that the values and love she gets from me will nurture our relationship and withstand damaging outside influences.
Not sure if this helps. Wishing you strength and peace.
