My UFO (unbelievably fabulous observations)

[hoosiermama]

Ok, y'all who have been here--how do you deal with your children's new lives with OW's or OM's and their families? I'm having a very difficult time with this. On bad days I wonder how much more xH and OW can take away from me. On better days I'm happy for D13 that she is learning to ride and gets some horse time; I'm trying to be happy that she has some new connections in her life, because right now I have very few to offer her. But that's gonna take awhile, I'm afraid. I hate that she has to deal with her father's hypocrisy (a supposedly faithful chaplain and candidate for priesthood openly living in an adulterous affair) and with OW's values (she's a Wiccan, and obviously could care less about having broken up a family). And there's nothing I can do about any of this. If I don't find a way to roll with it, it will simply continue to happen without my knowledge.

Oh, and yes, it was in our preliminary divorce agreement that D would not be around OW until the end of the school year. That was completely disregarded, and H had the nerve to tell me that it wasn't any of my business. Sorry, bud, but even if you choose to behave as if I no longer exist--I'm still the mother.