Divorce not busted 2

[Orich]

Thank you, Sandi. It is obvious you care, and for that I am grateful. You took the time out to point out my DBing flaws, and I will take it to heart. You are correct, I am having a very hard time detaching. It is difficult while living together and having kids together. I can't imagine just leaving the house at night saying only that I am going out, I'll be home late. She has always told me where she was going and when she would be home.
I will add this, I do act differently at home than the way I post here. Probably not different enough to be effectively DBing, though.
Sara brings up a good point. I don't think W would suspect me of doing anything with another woman behind her back. She knows I am trying to save or marriage, and she also knows that I could no more do that than commit robbery or murder, it is a mortal sin.
Now, I realize that her perceiving that I might be turning my interest away from her towards someone else might be effective. I will have to find a way to test that theory.
I also realize that she is all about herself right now. But forgetting to tell me about her going to the concert is still BS in my opinion. She still has some interest in me to the effect that she calls me for opinions, asks me about my work, and other little things.
Whatever, it doesn't really matter anyway. What you have written is correct. I have to re-double my efforts to detach. I began to do so in earnest after her letter (I won't bring that up again). It was easy, because she was pretty final about the whole thing. I will try to put myself back in that mindset.
Again, thank you for your concern and advice. Without it, I might continue to screw up my chances of reuniting with my W. And, quite honestly, I don't know how I would be able to live with myself after failing two marriages AND my chances at saving one of them.