My wife is real good looking too. The thing is I realise now that she has major problems and just focussing on someones looks is stupid.
She is a nice girl as well but she isn't stable and probably never has been and if she feels she wants something she will do anything to justify her actions.
I starting to think that this has been at least as much my fault as hers. We went to marriage counselling and there were flashing lights. We already had a kid and I just thought I'd roll with it.
Now I'm rolling with it as well but it is heading to divorce. She doesn't seem to care about the kids at all. She just wants to go out and party with her friends.
I will not fight with her at all. If she wants a divorce she can get it - all I will try to do is make sure the kids are as happy and well adjusted as they possibly can be.
I know these comments probably don't suit this site but I think in some ways acceptance is a key. I cannot force her to calm down. Maybe by doing all the right things - taking care of myself, taking care of the kids & going to counselling things will turn around but the ball will be in her court. I am not going to sit around, mope and pray she comes back.
