WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

[Deep]

Sandi, wow. I can't say how much your words mirror almost exactly that of my W. Seriously. She breaks down every time she tells me how bad she feels about what she did, and the pain she saw me in. Said it was the hardest part for her, the look on my face when we had to talk things through.

I can't speak for your H, but I think just hearing your feelings and remorse now is enough, more than enough. My W does not know about this website, but she heard betrayed spouses in our Retrouvaille experience - same reaction. I loved her so much more than ever before for it.

CIPA, the pain will burn out, not for some time, but it will. Be with friends now if you can. Support is so valuable now to get past the first couple of humps ...