WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

[confusedinpa]

There were a few things that made it different from your sitch. 1, W insists till this day that it was EA not PA. While I don't say it 100% doesn't matter, it really does not make the betrayal one iota less. 2, as miserable as she felt with me, she immediately agreed to stop the A (of course it's impossible, but the point is she agreed), and wanted to stay for the kids. 3, she did go into attack mode and blamed me, but she also said "sorry", and over time, her remorse was very plain to see.

So yeah, for the better part of a year, we went through the "I'm in love with OM but will stay for the kids" sitch, which has its own particular hell although there are positives.

I guess that is some key differences of a physical affair and the fact that she has shown no remorse. Plus she has already made the decision of not willing to try even for the kids.

I am really hurting and I honestly think she does not care...