Long time since I dropped in. I totally empathize with getting yourself into dizzying depths of confusion when you way over anlayze stuff. Feel like the world is falling apart until a simple, subtle event makes it obvious that maybe things are OK. I was going nuts with my X when I was trying to salvage the M, and then again with my GF when I wasn't sure where her feelings were for me. My M was a lost cause, but with my GF I learned to "chill-out". Took it a day at a time, and enjoyed the good things that were happening at the present. She figured out I wasn't a looney, that I was going to be patient with her reluctance to get involved with someone she thought wasn't "over" his X, and things sort of took off. I'm convinced if I pressured her she'd no longer be in my life. Do you think your H is "in his cave" because he's feeling the pressure you're putting on him? Maybe just give him some air....
