Kimmie and SpyBunny What I am trying to say is that SB's H thinks that sex is a normal way of showing his emtions. This is true some of the time. However in this case, the H thinks that sex is the only way to feel connected to the W.
He admits that there are no feelings for the OW that he is with but he may think that when him and SB do anything that they are 'ML' in one way or another.
In his mind he can only show that he cares about her if it has something to do with sex. He can't show her that he loves her with simple jesture like flowers and such.
He thinks that she needs to do sexual favors for him to show that she loves him.
It is an abnormal way of thinking that most sex addicts adopt. I am not saying that it is good, by NO means. In my stitch, my H can call me some nasty names, say nasty things to me, and then turn around and want to have sex. I say no, and he says, then you don't love me the same way that I love you. I was wondering if Sb's stitch was similar.
A sex addicts can seperate the sexual feeling that he/she gets from being with someone that they love compared to when they are with someone 'just for the sex'. Most people, like SB, do not seperate it. They prefer to have feelings and connections with the person they are having sex with.
It's a sex addicts way. I hope I cleared it up a bit. If I was wrong, then I apologize.
Me-31 Him-28 D1-9 D2-6 Married 5-06 Seperated 12-07 He filed 1-08 Reconciled 4-08 D dropped 7-08 Bomb dropped about H's activities outside the marriage 4-21-09 Filed for D 4-28-09 Trying to make a go of it 6-09
