Everyone has to tailor the plan for their situation. It just struck me that what you are doing may not resolve any of the issues that appear to have propped back up a 2nd time wiht your M. I'm no expert, and I am learning new things ever day, but if your technique did not work the 1st time, why do you think it will be anything more than a band-aid this time around? I'm not trying to be a smarta$$ here, really.
What C did you and your W go through before following the 2003 episode? What did you do to resolve your problems then? Were they resolved or just brushed under the carpet for a while?
I guess my concern is that your W has now twice had issues, and it does not seem like there have any major changes for the better in you, your W or the M. You sound like a nice caring H, but one who (like me) is (making this a was) afraid to rock the boat.
If I'm off base, I'm sorry. I can assure you I (and although I can't speak for him, I suspect Puppy) only want to see you improve you and your M.
