WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

[sandi2]

Thanks for all the support Sandi. I am sorry I let you down in not busting this divorce with all the guidance and wisdom you had taken the time to share with me.

Please don't say that. You have not let me down. You were doing the best that you could and it is easy for me to sit on this end of things and say what you "should do" or "shouldn't", but it is your life and you are the one in so much pain. I can't tell you how much I had hoped your M would be added to the DB Success Stories, but I certainly have not given up on "you"! I know you will be a success!

I wished I could make the pain go away for you. I've sit here wondering what to say to a man who feels as though his heart has been torn from his chest, and I realize there is nothing I can say that will make you feel any better at all. You loved so deeply and it is going to take a long time to heal and I think you will experience several emotions before you have reached the finish line.

It is okay to be mad. I would wonder if you were human if you weren't angry over this. Expect to feel a lot of different ways. I still think you should do something to release all the anger in you and not try to keep it bottled up. There will probaby be days that you will be depressed and then you will mourn over the loss of your M. All those feelings are normal and don't be too hard on yourself if it takes a while to get through this. As much as we wish you could get up in the morning and it would all be over and you could move on to the next chapter...it just isn't that easy. Being a human is complicated! And, at times it really sucks...but other times it is pretty nice and I want you to keep in mind that you will have those nice days again.

So, come here and talk as much as you need to talk about how you feel, your W, or whatever you need to talk about. I hope you will be careful to take eat well and exercise and sleep as much as you can. You are exhausted and it would not take much to get sick at this point.

You will be a member of this community as long as you want to be here, so I hope you will not think you need to stop posting. Besides, we never know waht tomorrow holds.