In Utter Agony...Long 1st Post

[eternaloptimist]

Just posting again in case anyone can share some insights on being separated and the heartbreak that one experiences. Trying to stay positive but detach at the same time. Sometimes I just dread when he calls or stops by because I don't feel like I have much privacy. He still has a key/garage door opener to the house, still helps himself to whatever food is in the refrigerator, still mows the grass, still acts considerate and takes the recycling to the garage, etc. He's pretty anal-retentive like me, so trying not to read too much into it. I am trying to notice the little signs though...

1) He seems much less angry on the phone and in person now.
2) I let him do most of the talking; when he goes on and on about his day or troubles, I just try to stay positive and keep things light. I always talk less than he does.
3) He actually gave me a HUG last night when he left the house.
4) Any requests to do anything with our son, I always put my plans second and give him priority to spend time with him. I'd do this no matter what just because I think it's the right thing to do since I see our son about 80% of the time.

Any advice from people who successfully reconciled? I know I have to have patience.