LL, I live three thousand miles away from any of my relatives. So, I had NO family help with my S when he was small...that's why I listed the suggestions of things you could do, because I did them. And, quite frankly, YES...start acting like a single mom...go, do, and see things with kids and use sitter to go without kids...maybe H will get the picture when the sitter bills add up and you are gone a bit more often. And maybe you will feel better..less stuck in a rut, less frustrated, less isolated from other adults. The bottom line is that YOU have to take care of YOU, no one else will or can make you happy. You have to seize control of your own life and make it what you want...hopefully H will see what is going on and decide to come along for the ride... Glad to hear you got some..that always helps! And please, please know I am reiterating all of this because I want you to be happy. Stop waiting for him to change...and change yourself. Do whatever it takes to get out of the house and get some time for yourself. Stop resenting him for being himself...if you had a cat you wouldn't try to make it behave like a dog, and then get angry and resentful when it wouldn't bark, would you? He is who he is and only He can make himself change...you can inspire him to change by changing yourself. Hope that makes some sense and doesn't get me a Na NI NA Ni POO POO...LOL
