Quote: it was never really taught to h, in his world the mothers did it all and the fathers were the breadwinners and fixer of things..
I have one like that, too, and four brothers who are like that. Unfortunately, my brothers had to learn it the hard way..from their wives who are nags!!!
That's why my SS19 has learned from me. I told him once, SS if you learn this now you're going to receive a lot less grief when you get married some day.
Our mothers didn't realize what a disservice they were doing for their son's when they waited on them all the time either. At least your H is early/young enough into this that eventually he will start to get it. At least you're talking to H about it, there are lots who just complain and never ask for the help because they WANT to be martyrs.
