Stop feeding the gorilla and he will leave. Nothing wrong with your feelings they are normal. You are feeding the gorilla by creating doubt and anxiety about how you will handle all of it. Break the issues down into actionable items then prioritise and get busy. BE + DO = HAVE Notice how you were having fun when you were in the "now" playing pool with your son. You were "being" a Dad, "playing" with your son and "having" fun. Decide what you want (HAVE) then work the other side of the equation. When I think about "what ifs" instead of just doing what I need to do is when my snakes show up. Take care of your self and King Kong will disappear.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.