K4D Rising #4

[MrBond]

Wow this has got to be one of the most philosophically-laden post in the history of DB.

Aside from what Kevin believes, remember the issue is that his W doesn't want the M.

Period.

Everyone can try changing Kevin's POV, but it comes down to what the W wants. Not what Kevin does. Whether it's God's Will or not, his W doesn't want the M.

It's not temporary insanity, it's not because she doesn't know what she wants (she had a list of valid R problems), and it's not because she

She is a WAS who felt hurt for a number of years in a co-dependent R who finally made the break to live for herself.

The more fervently Kevin gets pushed into a debate about God, the more it's going to sound like you're fighting against the devil rather than it simply being the matter of a woman whose needs weren't met.

All heavenly debates aside, that's what it boils down to.

He neglected his W, she put up with alot of sh*t until she couldn't take it anymore and feels she can now live the life she feels she missed out on.

And let's face it, we all don't blame her. Seeing Kevin's obsessive R with her even now would make the majority of us run away too. Kevin, just stop with the obsession and let her live her life. Let her free and if she comes back it was meant to be.

It doesn't matter what you think or what you believe. It matters what she thinks (even though you adamantly believe she's wrong) because until you acknowledge that, you will not have the compassion to get her back or anyone else for that matter. Compassion is what it comes down to. Understanding things from HER point of view.

All we've seen here is how judgemental you can be to people you don't agree with. If you don't change that, your W will NEVER come back. Why would she want to stay with someone who is judgemental all the time about what you do? You insist on having God on your side yet you make side comments about her and always say "I can't see why she can't..." That's just it. YOU can't see why. You say you can, but you keep cutting down her character here on these boards.

Even in the scenario of if it was one of your D's in a relationship like yours, you insist on pushing on with the M without understanding the sitch through your D's eyes.

Start learning compassion and you'll be a better person. Or if you want a biblical reference "let he who is without sin cast the first stone".