Hi LL...your frustration (especially in the first post) just SCREAMS off of the page. Personally, I think it's TOTALLY justified!!!
But for WHATEVER reason, what you've tried so far to get some changes going in these regards is not working all that well.
Forgive my poor memory, but have you two been to MC? Do you still go?
I don't know how responsive your H is to the idea, but do you think he might be more COMMITTED to some kind of schedule, to SEEING what all of this is doing to you? The uncertainty ?(time of arrival grrr!) the dangling carrots ?(slow time at work)...how MUCH you are overwhelmed with the FULL TIME, primary care-giver, Mothering role (Permission to get a hair cut??? ).
Okay, I'll reign it in now...just feeling for you, LL.
Shiny
P.S. One of the reasons I chose not to have children (and never had the desire) was that I was quite sure I would CRUMBLE under the responsibility.
You ARE familiar with the research study that calculated that a stay at home Mom with small kids (two or three, can't recall!!) is working the equivalent of TWO full time jobs!!!
Maybe you should find the source (it was on Dr. Phil), print the study out and hand it to your H, along with a reasonable schedule for UNCHALLENGED and SACRED LL time!!!
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