One more thing, a very good friend of mine from high school has been complaining about this since she got married. One child is in the Navy and the other is a sophomore in high school. Her H never changed and never will either. They've been married 23 years and she's still complaining about the same things she did when she was first married. I know this doesnt' help, but do you want to hold onto this for that long? I mean accept the situation or not, but don't let it take your life over.
Cathy
I try very hard to not let it take my life over and I know that I was much better at dealing with "the life" before the kids and also believed more of the empty promises back then, now h's talk of having more time just seems like more of the same to me...just talk.
as is typically the case when I come here and rant things change.
not to say that the things I complain about aren't real and justified but what spurs the rant often changes when I rant here rather then letting h have it.
tonight I was to go out with my mom shopping for an outfit to wear to a pty h and I will be going to fri night.
I would be able to leave once h "got home and got himself scituated" when h called earlier on his way back to the office @ 2 he said he'd be there til about 5. if he left the office at five and there were miraculosly no traffic he might make it home by 6...getting scituated may mean I don't get to leave til 7..well h just called 4:30ish and he's already more than half way home so I may just be able to leave by 6.
are things terrible here? no could things be better here? I don't think it's really a matter of better but more a matter of more consistant. h goes through cycles where he's attentive mentally and physically and then for whatever reason plummets off to a bread winner couch potatoe.
I'm tired of the extremes wich is why I tried to suggest to h scheduling time for us, time for the family, time for me alone etc. H doens't want to or can't bind himself to something like that therefore it's an all or nothing type deal for me (or so it seems, h never does nothing).
