Having H work M-F daytime is completely normal. Having him work half-day Saturday is not unusual, depending on what his occupation is. And you knew it going in. But, Corri is right about the plan-making affecting both you and him. He has to be willing, if not downright motivated, to accomodate the situation and he should be more considerate of how much you have to work with the household and the kids. Being more open with communication with him is where it begins from.
If you can approach him in a non-threatening manner he may be more willing to realize that there should be a compromise here. I'm a football fan myself, and a lot of guys might disagree with me on this, but I feel that every single Sunday doesn't have to automatically be devoted to back-to-back football watching from 10 AM until 4 PM. Besides, if it's that important to him he could videotape the game and watch it later, or (gulp!) actually miss a few of them in the interests of the kids, the family and you as well.
From the other side of the coin........my W knew the day she met me that I work a lot, too. Monday thru Thursday 9 AM until 10:30 PM, with evenings off only the last week of each month. Her work schedule during the first 2 years we were together was the same as your H's, except on Sat. she didn't get home until 6 PM (6 day week for her, 4 days and evenings for me). Her S went to daycare usually, and some Saturdays he was there, some he was with me. It worked....at first. Later, she wanted for me to stop working the evenings but because of my position I couldn't do it right away. I really missed being able to be at home those evenings, but she came to be more resentful over time and alienated me over it.
When she voluntarily quit working, and was at home all the time is when she really focused on it as a major issue. We planned for me to phase out the evening work, starting with 2 of those nights, then later all 4 so I could be at home in the evenings during the week. With her refusing to return to work, it would have been difficult financially but I saw the importance of the compromise and arranged for others to get the evening contracts instead of me.
But it was too late for her, by then there were other strains so she ultimately gave up and dropped the bomb. For her apparantly, it was too little too late. However, we had been M less than 2 years at that point, and together for 4 and a half.
I wanted to be home more but couldn't right away. By the time I could, and made the changes necessary to have that, she didn't care anymore. Now I have no W and no family.
I'm not sure if this comparison can really be of any assistance to you, but I wanted to share it just in case it may. I guess the key word here is.......priority. Can your H modify his priorities to accomodate the bigger picture? How can you get him to do so while being non-threatening so he doesn't develop any resentment (whether he deserves to or not)?
Make a plan, come up with a strategy, communicate more openly. Teach him to see what changes should be made, and which things don't have to change in his own personal world. BTW, there is a saying that I believe to be true.....you can't teach anybody anything, but you can find ways to allow them to learn for themselves.
Being a stay at home mom is a hell of a lot of work, as you are fully aware of, and your patience has to be incredible to maintain all that while the snot gets shared. And also, someone has to work another job to be able to buy the kleenex. The middle ground can be found when both players keep the family "team" in mind.
Maybe try to get him to see that the "home team" needs work this season.
