Rays of hope - thaw approaching?

[Serenity13]

Glad you liked it...

We all need the reminder...

As for your post...

Funny that I can get a response out of someone vehemently opposed to me[/b] (the "friend") and not my wife. How does doing what I'm doing affect the relationship between the "friend" and I, but not my W. Do I wait until it percolates down into my W's subconscious?

And what caused the reply? A funny DVD given out of the blue because it was funny. Didn't cost a dime.

Please try to explain this to me because I'm at a loss as to why I shouldn't continue with this approach. Which is working. Targeting is a bit off - but it's working.

Let's start here...

You should know what I am going to say before I say it by now - And you know I am not going to hold back -

The response you got wasn't from the person you wanted it to be from...

Who gives a flip what the F thinks?

Now it looks like you are trying to get your W back by going through the F and we both know that isn't going to work...

Your W has to want to come back on her own with no influence from you...

It has to be her choice and by going through the friend you seem to be cutting that choice out of the picture...

Basically it looks like this....

Everything you have done up to this point hasn't been really working to bring W home so now you seem to want to switch tactics and become buddies with the F in the hopes that it "percolates down into my W's subconscious".

The answer to this is no...

You know it and I know it and I am sure others will tell you the same thing - No...

So now where do I stand?

You stand for yourself my friend...For your beliefs, your values, what you want for you...If she comes along on your journey then I will be the first to applaud however the stand is for you, the 180's are for you, the GAL is for you...Do you see the key word in all that? YOU

Try to out-stubborn my W?

This isn't a game of who is more stubborn then the other...This is your life - You only have one shot at it and you have to do it right the first time - No do-overs in this game...No losers in this game...Even if she doesn't come back you are still a winner because you have improved you...You have become a better Mac for you - See that word again - YOU

Is the no contact a rule written in stone? So we both sit on our a$$'s waiting for the other to actually do something. Waiting.

Sucks my friend however you should know by now not to be sitting on your behind waiting for anything...

"Trust the Lord with all your heart. Stop doubting, believe & totally trust the Lord with your life and marriage. He will not fail you"

Someone sent me this a couple of days ago Stop doubting - Start believing...

P.S. I saw a cardinal this morning