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LL!!

Isn't it just CREEPY how you and I seem to cycle up and down together...and for SURE for both of us it's not feeling well that's adding fuel to the fire. I agree that it's the not feeling well but I wonder if I may be using that as a cover for really just not feeling good about "stuff" in general.

I won't even TOUCH the issue, as that's still a sore spot for me...actually, maybe I will, since you mentioned my H in a flattering light above.

LL which is better: to say "this is just how I am" (grrr!!!) or "I'm WORKING on it"...and then ZIPOLA!! I occassionaly do get the "i'm working on it, or the I thought I was warming up to you, or it's not as infrequent as you think, or I just go through cycles you know that etc....

I feel very strongly that you feel taken advantage of...there is NO LL time... I do feel taken advantage of, and then I feel guilty for feeling that way..after all I should feel lucky that I get to stay home with my kids but...some definate scheduled me time would be awesome..time that doesn't come at the end of the night when it's cold and dark but perhaps sat afternoons or something...suppose if I said to h...I'm going to do x y and z when you get home sat...he'd be ok with it...as long as he didn't have some plans to work in the yard or something cause that after all comes first.

So just WHAT will it take to make that happen??? Your H does sound rather caught in a June Cleaver view of what a W and Mom should be and THAT needs some shaking up!!! need to just stop doing it...h isn't as like that as it would seem, part of it is that I took on that role of my own doing...he never asked or expected me to cook everynight or any of that..well ok ya he does expect that I will take care of the kids so there's the issue.

Will ponder...you too!

Shiny

P.S. Any bets we'll feel more "up" when we're not so physically down?? I sure hope so.



btw I did start a thread over in ssm take a peek if you like

just the wife