Yes, if we don't believe the enemy exists, we are much more easily swayed to fall into the trap. And sometimes, we just become confused and don't see the trap until it is too late. That is what he counts on.
I know if feels like giving up and that may be what caused her to rethink a little. But it is necessary. It may be the most necessary step in the whole process.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox