Tristan, I think you need to get professional advice.
Bipolar is not a small thing. With all due respect to the people on the board, you are dealing with mental illness here, and while DR, etc may be helpful, you're talking about your wife being "stabilized" for only a couple of weeks. I wouldn't be taking people's strong opinions about strong actions to be taken without consulting professionals.
Your MC told you to wait until she saw her psych again...I guess the question I have is what are YOU doing, and what is YOUR support here? What is your role with the psych, etc? It sounds like you are involved with the medical process? Yes? Are you receiving any kind of counseling/education/support on dealing with a bipolar spouse?
I'm not saying people here are wrong...I'm just saying I would be careful about following advice intended for ordinary situations.
Lastly...I'll say that you cannot underestimate the deception and mind control a person like this OM is capable of, ESPECIALLY if your wife is having emotional problems to begin with. "Snake" doesn't begin to cover it, but there is no point in telling her that right now.
