WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

[confusedinpa]

Ok.
What is the time frame in which all of this happened?
Was it before or after January 2009?

The first physical hook up was on Nov 7, 2008 with that guy in the email I posted. It had continued. Even two days after she moved out in April, they were together to "celebrate" her new apt and freedom.

She had been "winking" and chatting with guys on Match since then (up, including Sun as I was driving back to work this week). This was after our conversation on Sat nite of how we felt that things were getting so much better between us (we had the "8th grade" hook ups the last 2 Sun nites). Apparently, she hadn't gotten emails/contact from the other guy (the one she started having sex with in Nov) in since the end of July.

There was another guy in the just before she moved out.

This is all throughly disgusting.

All this time I have been trying and we have talked about how I've been trying were filled with lies.

Even last Thurs we had a blow up when she asked to borrow money, she complained she felt cheap when I would compliment her about her boobs (her best feature). Yet, in all her emails with the other guy from Nov, it is filled with details of what happened with the boobs and other body parts.

There were so many out right lies. Even two weeks before she moved out, I talked about trying to choose love to see if can work things out. She said she had been trying to for the 3 months since she dropped the bomb and it's not going to work. I just didn't realize with who.

So am I angry. Absolutely.

Can I continue to work on the marriage if she tries. Right now I can do not feel I am strong enough to do that.