So I brought up the issue last night. W admitted to a PA (claims just kissing) and said she needed to seperate to find out what she wanted. I am devastated and confused. I have no idea what to do? I first tried to sleep on the couch after the conversation, but gave in and went back to the bed. I know that is not what I should have done, but I was so distraught.

I woke up early and came to work. I woke her up. She said I just "saved her from falling into some murky/dirty water" in her dream. I asked her how she was doing; she said "Having a hard time". She asked how I was; my reply was "Not sure". I left for work without giving her a kiss. First time in a long while.

We have a MC session tonight. She wants to talk about seperating there. I have no idea how to respond. Do I simply accept it? Is it OK if I say I am not ready to talk about how to deal with the children right now? I am ashamed to say this, but I don't really feel like being with them right now. I don't feel like being with anyone; I just want to crawl into a hole in the ground.


Me: 36, W: 33, M: 10 yrs
Bomb: 1/09, Seperated: 9/09, Piecing Begins: 10/09

My story: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...t=91&page=1