Oh no K, I'm so sorry.. thats awful, how annoying (thats too weak a word). At least the truth is ALL out now, no more secrets. How did he do that and how did he let you know? Are you still away, but did he phone?
Perhaps you two should meet for a properly honest, card on the table talk, you are now an exdber for sure.. you could tell him to his face that you had given up, but it was something that came out of the blue, you didnt go looking for it, or pursue it, and he had been gone nearly a year by then and being very cold (I remember that summer, I was seeing my then ex 3 times a week and phonecalls every night and dates and you had NOTHING from your ex, he never spent more than 10 minutes with you). I think you should explain all this to him, I hate injustice and it would be an injustice if he thought "ahh, we're evens then, I have nothing to reproach/redeem myself for".. especially in terms of him being fair to you in any D.
I guess you feel you lost the moral highground/leverage with him now to get what you need out of this sorry situation. He may well be gracious though and accept that this was his choice and you were just coping as best you can and its not that you had an A too, he had already left you...
Thinking of yuo, as always, Love Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
