You people are keeping me sane and have a much better insight into this than other people I talk too.
Your right I have done plenty to make the relationship what it is today and I can do plenty to improve on myself.
My wife went to counselling today even though I get the impression she didn't want too. I'm viewing counselling as a way to work on my issues and her to work on her issues and then see what happens. I need to understand what I have done to cause this and therefore what I should be doing to improve on myself. She needs help in a major way.
Your right in that in some ways I don't have to worry about her at all now and I can focus on myself. Its a little like a clean slate from which to build from.
