I noticed that you mentioned about taking time to be driving around in order to process things in anticipation of H's visit to the lawyer. Take it from me, it aint worth your getting all out of sorts over it. It takes me back to a year and a half ago when I first joined up on here. I was on edge and had the pins and needeles thing going on as i waited for the certified letter that was supposed to be on it's way.
I guess what I am trying to say is that had I known then what I now know, I wouldn't have driven myself bonkers over it. It wasn't in any way going to change my stance towards my M. I made a covenant bond ..a one flesh bond with my darling before God and family. I remember explaining this to my darling about a year ago when she & I went out to dinner. I told her about the DB boards and that I was associated with a bunch of guys who were choosing to stand on faith for the restoration of their M's. (I will be getting together with them once again this Tuesday btw). It was kinda neat to see her reaction to what I was telling her. Her initial knee jerk response was to question me as to whether or not the boards were just some kinda meet up place for people with broken hearts who were lonely ..or something along those lines. Jealousy runs rampant with her and so she asked if I was meeting women on DB and I quickly informed her that the objective and motivation of the site has nothing at all to do with providing some kinda of place to hook up broken hearted males and females. Once that was pushed aside, I am pretty sure she remarked that she respected the views that I was holding and the extent that Iwas going to try and restore the M. And then from there I think we started to touch upon very definete weak areas in our M and how they could be dealt with.
Mind you, this dinner out ocurred in celebration of her birthday last July and it was all of about less than three weeks after I had received the finalized D papers in the mail. Are we a peculiar couple or what??
So I also told her that the papers that the lawyers had a field day crafting and collecting a bunch of $$$ for meant nothing to me. She seemed interested to hear that but she was wondering what was going to change in our R in order to make it better.
I have pretty fond memories of that day cuz if I recall correctly she and I wound up christening my new truck in an extra special way. Yowzzer.
anyway ..that is way too much jibber jabber from me for one night.
guess it is not considered hijacking since you're my sis.
