SDFG: absolutely. Detaching for your own sanity and moving on has its consequences, even deep into the recovery period. You find yourself again, you gear yourself for life on your own terms without WAW if necessary. It's a bit disorientating at times to piece, much less when the feelings of resentment and hurt surface.

Yups, when hubby dearest decides to wake up, he'll crawl back and think you can both move on like it's buried in the dark past, with no need to resolve anything about what happened with the A.


Me 42
W 39
Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992
First Bomb: Sep 2007
Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007
Kids: D10, S5
Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak.
3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.