Julia, there is a phrase in this part of the world to describe how fabulous I think your GAL plan is: "You GO girl!!!!" (does that translate?) What you've described sounds perfect, especially the swimming because it sounds as though that has been a passion of yours. You sound VERY centered. I can hardly wait to read your report after your first walk this weekend.
Writing to you has helped me to clarify my thoughts about my sitch, so I am very appreciative of this dialogue. Yesterday I realized something about my situation that I think may also apply to yours, so let me run this by you, OK? In my situation, many of the people H and I socialized with had been H's friends for 10, 20, and even 30 years, so when we separated they naturally kept in contact with him. I believe that you wrote that you do not have the opportunity to interact with mutual friends either. This has made it difficult to show our H's more rational friends that we have been good attitude girls (and not b*&%hes) throughout this process. H's chief complaint was that I spent too much time working (he was right but I didn't have any other job options at the time), so when a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity (this was divine intervention I believe) allowed me to switch jobs and cut my work hours from 60 hr/wk to ~35 hr/wk H told all his friends. That's right,....... my H spread the word himself.
In your situation, is it possible that your moving to London and having the exciting and interesting social life that you are in the process of building will create such an impression that your H won't be able to resist mentioning your new life to his friends? Your super-charged GAL activities may help to get the word out to H's friends that you are having the kind of life that he/they would like to have. I'm sorry that I don't know the entire history of your sitch, but did you and H ever live in London together? Is this something that he has always wanted to do?
