Hi CIPA. Just a word to add encouragement too. I also found out about the A by catching an email in the trash bin after months of suspecting. Granted, it was mainly emotional crap, but it ate at me for far too long, even after the healing was well under way. The wounds are bleeding raw for you now, but try to keep in mind to let it go as you move on.
And your sons are your sons. That look of love you see in their eyes is for you, and you alone.
Stay strong.
Me 42 W 39 Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992 First Bomb: Sep 2007 Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007 Kids: D10, S5 Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak. 3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.