Kevin - I was not talking about your D's and being married or separated. I am talking about a man mentally stalking your D as you do your W at ANY age. If she told you it made her uncomfortable, stifled, sick and frightened would you still say "well, stay separated but work it out?". No! Your d's comfort would be your FIRST priority (or it should be).
Your D's will be teenagers soon and this case scenario is likely. Would you tell a teenage boy to "work on his issues". No. Hopefully you would tell him in a firm fashion to get lost and leave your D alone. That is what your W is telling you now. Walk in her shoes (her = your W) for an hour, day, week and really think about it.
It goes way beyond "working on issues".
I was trying to illustrate a point which clearly you missed.
