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[sage]

hey LL,

they must have been handing out mistrust and fear at the grocery store today! A couple of us in Piecing are struggling with this today!

I'd like to believe that ow is gone and she probably is..but...well...how the hell will I ever really know???
I didn't ever really know she was there in the first place until they had been seen together and by that point their r had already been going on for over a year...

I know that I can't live my life always waiting for the next time he get's "caught", but I don't know how to kick the feeling of mistrust either.

I don't even know if I have reason to be feeling this way but I do.

LL

So...I ASSume from the general trend of your posts that mistrust is not the NORM. In other words, would you say that most days you are OK with your trust level and suspicions?

I don't have a real solution other than this to offer...

sounds like these feelings have been spurred on by an uncomfortable anniversary.

AND, these feelings aren't about anything in h's behavior BUT are about fears and memories.

I'd say it's perfectly AOK to "sit with" that. Saying to yourself...I'm feeling mistrust today because of the anniversary and because I'm feeling afraid. It's not something I can control...etc.

IOW...note it, feel it deeply if that helps you (it doesn't help everyone but you'd know best) and remind yourself that it's based on FEELING not action.

So...what are you guys doing for h's bday?

Would bringing this up to h tomorrow or the day after help you?

Sage