Not to be alarmist, but if your H is stopping this this level for whatever reason, money, freaking you out, making you feel a need for a big strong H around the house ... It's sick. HE really needs help.

If this has nothing to do with him, and even if I hated my W, I won't take so lightly someone possibly posing a threat to her and my family ...

Me 42
W 39
Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992
First Bomb: Sep 2007
Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007
Kids: D10, S5
Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak.
3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.