Yep, another WAW - in last resort

[lonelywolf]

So, should I try to talk to an Arizona attorney on the phone, or find one up here in Alaska?

[harpo]

LW

typically most states have a residency law before you can file a D.(usually 6 months)
as far as your kids I will tell you this from experience act now or forever live in regret.How long have you lived there ? where do your kids go to school ?.my advice become extremely diligent and don't ass(u)me things will be fine.cause when the fhit hits the san it is going to cost you big time.and if her Mommy and Daddy are footin the bill you lose.I know I am in the same sitch as far outlaws(inlaws) go.
If your residency is in Alaska file for Emergency Temporary Custody.she has relocated without consent,refuses communication and I would guess alienation.be truthful and don't go over the edge.research custody laws in your state.as far as kidnapping that won't fly you both have equal access to the children right now(which you are being neglected of).
As far as law enforcement the will see this as a civil matter unless there are court orders.this I will tell you and it going to hurt but reality bites.Do not view her as a friend don't confide and cover your A$$.educate yourself since you are male you are guilty by association.custody laws tend to lean towards the mother( Sorry ladies I don't mean to offend) although that is slowly changing with the advent of SAHD's.
As far as lawyer's go they are a blood sucking necessary evil.(if there are any on this BB sorry you already know this).and the cost can get ugly quick.so do as much leg work as you can.

On a lighter note my heart goes out I have 5 kids and know the torment to well.as you can tell I suffer from ADD (another disgruntled Dad).arm yourself with knowledge fire back calmly and accurately and always stay ahead of the curve.

The information in this post is just that.I am not a blood sucking lawyer or present myself as one.Always seek legal help

Good Luck
God Bless

[lonelywolf]

Thanks, harpo. I'll do some research on residency requirements. I know she can't file for divorce until next month, but I'm not sure about the laws in Alaska. We'll see.

[lonelywolf]

Tough week. It was our anniversary this week.

Just been keeping myself busy working and looking for a job, trying to keep my mind off the whole thing.

No communication from her at all. I guess that's better than her accusatory e-mails. I've only sent her one very brief, matter of fact e-mail about finances.

Things are going better here, though. My kid sister and I are going to be performing together as a musical duo later this week. I've really missed performing music in public.

[harpo]

Things are going better here, though. My kid sister and I are going to be performing together as a musical duo later this week. I've really missed performing music in public.

LW
This will do wonders for you.I am also a performing musician.it is great therapy and a great stress reliever."Rock on"

[lonelywolf]

Thanks, harpo.

Interesting development this week. She e-mailed me telling me she needed a rather substantial amount of money in order "to pay her parents back for taking care of her and the kids."

Very odd. I told her that if her parents really needed the money, it would have to wait until October - but that I needed more information before I handed the money over (especially since I'm falling behind in my goal to pay off my credit cards by the end of the year).

She hasn't responded yet. I can sort of see why she might request it, because she has always hated feeling like she was taking advantage of people and doesn't like to receive help or service from others, but her parents are rich, rich, rich. SO, it seemed just slightly fishy to me.

It may be innocent, but I'm only gonna pay her parents back if I get my family back. They've been pushing her to leave me ever since we were engaged.

[lonelywolf]

Although I didn't mention the credit cards to her - I just said something like (though in slightly more words): "Paying your parents back will have to wait until October, and I'll need more information on exactly what the money is for before I hand it over."

[harpo]

I can feel for you.dealing with the other side can be ugly.doesn't take long to see where there loyalty is.as far as sending her a large lump of dough.......not.if it's got to be get a j.o.b.
stay focused on your goals and stay strong.

[lonelywolf]

Well, some good news (I hope).

I was offered a part time teaching job at the local community college (well, good news for me - but it's because the usual teacher for the class has a family medical emergency, so it's not all good news).

I e-mailed my wife to let her know. My biggest fear is that if she does file (she legally can in two weeks), I'd have to fly down to AZ a lot to appear in court, etc. Not cool. I guess I'll need a lawyer who can represent me.

Since one of her concerns was I seemed unable to get hired, maybe this will help. Or perhaps not. This is good news for me though, as it will keep me in the teaching game, so it will look good on my resume and help me get a full time job next year (job list goes up next month!)

I don't know what her response will be, but I have to move on. Best case at this point is that she decides not to file and gives me some time to (at least) get established somewhere.

[lonelywolf]

Well, I e-mailed her and told her I was taking this one job and would likely take some other part-time job as well.

Then I said either she could come up here, or (at the very least) I would be down to visit for the Holidays. We'll see how she responds to that. If she threatens or implies in anyway she'll cut off the kids from access to me, I'll have a lawyer immediately.