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Please think about this and answer me. What if you found a man was obsessing about one of your daughters the way you obsess about your W? This man had every thought, action and motivation to somehow be with one of your daughters despite the fact the daughter in question has made it perfectly clear she wants NOTHING to do with this man. Yet, this man keep doing the same thing. Wouldnt that frighten you? Wouldnt you want that to stop and stop at once? Wouldnt you go to any measure to make sure it did stop?


CG, if my daughter was married to him and there was no physical danger, I would suggest he find a way to work on his issues. If my daughter did not want to be around him for a period of time I would be fine with separation but with the understanding that marriage is for life and if you separate it should be for each of them to work on themselves to better the marriage down the road.

There is a big difference between that and say her wanting a D and sleeping around and trying to remarry someone else. I would be extremely disapointed in her if she pulled that. You don't walk out on a M and be with someone else just because things got tough. You always find a way to work out whatever needs to be worked out or worked on. I will expect that from my daughters.

I don't support D for myself and I won't for my daughters either. Separation for a period of time til things are fixed yes. D, no.

Kevin


Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...