Hey BJ,
Man do what's right for u and ur kids. You definitely have your plate full but like everyone says focus on u and the kids heck leave her there as hard as that may seem u said it yourself father first then husband. I know it sucks bc of my sit but man u have b een really patient and u should make a statement for your sake and the kids.

Good luck brother

M:35
W:36
M:10 yrs
T:11.5 yrs
C: B7, G3
ED: 3/09
DB: 3/20/09
Served 12-8-09
Still going through the process