A person often does not change until the pain is so intense and he/she hits rock bottom.
Someone I know who is in AA once said to me, "with one more person's 'help' I'd be dead."
Maybe it is time to stop "helping" and let Kevin hit bottom and feel intrinsically motivated to change instead of buffering here.
Ha, best thing that happened to me on this site was 25 bailing on my thread (with much respect to 25)...I went "What the f*ck is wrong with me? She'll keep posting to Kevin but has given up on me?" Seriously, 25, you're brilliant and right and so many great things but do you see this as "working"?
For what it is worth Kevin, I think you can do this. I also think you use this site as a crutch and you need to be absolutely lonely and in your despair to stand a chance of changing. I know you want it. I wish you the best. It is up to YOU!
