Trying to cope with H, IA/EA (was Newbie-1st post)

[Faith2010]

I have decided it is time I write a letter to OW's husband. I have been unsuccessful in obtaining a telephone number therefore will resort to a letter.

I am not 100% sure if this is the right thing to do but have prayed about it for several days and wrote the letter tonight. I am going to post it and ask for any comments, suggestions, insights.

Dear OW's H -
I write this letter with a heavy heart. I’ve avoided
doing so for a long time but decided if the situation
was reversed, I would want to know. Your wife,
(shank's name), and my husband, (his first name),
have been involved in an inappropriate internet
relationship for the past several months and it has
escalated into an emotional affair. They now talk and text
on the phone daily.

I first learned of the affair in the beginning of June. At
that time I told my husband I would expose the affair by
writing you a message on facebook. Within a day your
profile disappeared.

This may be a shock to you or perhaps you had your
suspicions. I have enclosed some phone records as proof. I
have additional information if needed.

I would like to apologize on behalf of my husband. The man
he is today is not the man I married. He has become a
confused, selfish individual. His actions have taken a
great toll on our family, especially our son. Little by
little this affair is destroying our lives. I realize this
means nothing to you. I only offer this information as a
means to help you understand that this is a serious matter
to us. I am trying to save my marriage as well as my
family but my husband’s continued refusal to end the
affair has made it very difficult.

Contact me if you need any further information or would
like to talk. You are in my prayers.