Yes, L appt. tomorrow - haven't talked with him in person since March. This has been a long, slow process. Partly due to my stalling, partly due to the system. H thought I would roll over and the D would happen within 3 months of the filing - which would have been last September.
Last summer 2008 H told me that OW was losing patience and if I contested the filing she threatened to move on. This gave me hope of course that even if he wasn't ready to come back, they would at least break up.
Well, she's still hanging on but I've let go. What a difference a year makes.
The 24th is our first court date - a preliminary hearing. I'll find out more tomorrow with L. Supposedly H's L told him it could be our FINAL hearing IF we had an agreement. That's why H is super anxious to settle.
But, he just found out his L will be on vacation next week so he sent me an email yesterday "Our Ls need to commuicate this week if we are going to settle on the 24th." Right, I'm suppose to rush a decision that will affect the rest of my life because his L won't be available next week? I don't think so.
In the meantime, we had to cash out a small amount of his retirement fund to get us through the next few months. H is still not working and is still threatening to file bankruptcy.
The good news is, I gave H his half of the check and finally closed our joint bank accounts. He is own his own now for real.
Oh, and he says he has pneumonia now.
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
