alj, thanks for stoping by my post and for the words of encouragement. I have just read all of yours and I am so sorry for your Sitch. I have been in poor me mode and realize I dont have 3 kids to worry about.. but I guess I also dont have the joy of waking up to 3 wonderful kids either.. I am glad for you and them that he is wanting them in his life. Alot of men would not make the trip so regularly to see them, especially if it means interacting with the LBS...
It really helps to wander the other posts and see the advise they are given. I have not read DB.. waiting for it to come in.. but I did read on someones post that maybe you shouldnt share info on the kids. I dont think it was so blunt. but basically that chatting about them is a way for you to keep him on the line. He gets to talk with them when he calls.. and if you dont keep him posted.. he gets to wonder what else he is missing.. also it gives you more chance to be mysterious.. keep the calls short on your part.. . Just a suggestion I read that sounded pretty good to me.
I know I had a tendancy to call my H for anything I could think of. He got a new phone off of our plan.. but I got the # and called him there.. so the other day I deleted both his out of state work # and his cell from my cell... I made sure my parents had the # in case anything really important came up.. but this way I can't spontaneously dial him.. I know you cant do that.. but just sharing how reading the suggestion on not chatting or trying to keep them on the phone gave me the idea to stop calling all together..
I know that you and I are new at this but we can see from the progress of others that there is hope at the end of the tunnel!
M - 45 1st marriage H - 45 2nd M -T - 14 yrs M - 13 yrs S - due to job location since 1/08 B - 7/6/2009 EA revealed -9/3/2009 began 6/09 E/A end 9/09 piercing: since 10/09 long distance
