Getting Un"Stuck" - Giving My Burden to God

[MrBond]

Update:

Let's see...since the trip, W is interacting much more now and is a HELL of alot friendlier. She is initiating conversations which is a big change from even 2 weeks ago and has asked if I wanted help on things.

I've been flirting with her a bit and tried to exude as much confidence as I can as if she was someone new whom I wanted to date. I learned a few things from a great website:

projecthappilyeverafter.com

and have been applying a few things the author did to save her M. For example, rather than just asking my W "how was your day" which would just get a "fine" or other one word answer, I would be more specific like "what was something interesting you did at work"? Stuff like that.

She's really become open to that.

While there is still no intimacy, that's my next step. I'm establishing the trust first and have been lightly non-sexually touching her. When I first did that, she would jerk back or run away, but lately I notice she doesn't do that anymore.

I had also been applying some NLP techniques like when there is a point where she's laughing or enjoying herself, I lightly touch her to re-enforce that feeling. Stuff like that.

I've also read "Light Her Fire" which helped alot and yes "gucci" I found that passage you pointed out and have applied that as well. It was about not being too available or being the "needy" one.

In fact, the writer from "projecthappilyeverafter.com" clarified it even more for me. She said it's more a matter that a woman has to "feel" that her man can take care of himself. That was good coming from a woman's POV.

I've also kept up my GAL in going to the gym, doing my own thing, etc. Funny thing about detachment is that it has made me love my W more, but if I came home and found it empty, I would be equally happy. I have become my own man.

Like others, I went through the periods of doubt about losing my attraction for her, etc. But then I would shake that off by giving her a hug for no reason or pray and that keeps me going.

I'd be interested to see if anyone has any other suggestions.