My sister had a nasty nasty D when her H had a PA. He was over 50 and never had kids but impregnated ow. ow D'd her H, and sis's xh and ow moved in 1/4 mile up the road from sis who retained the dairy farm. ow's kids from her xh would get scared by their new stepdad and run thru the cornfield to my sis's farm for help. Sis couldn't take the kids back because there was restraining orders on everyone for everything. It was nasty nasty!! Now, years later, sis's xh's W works for sis. xh's W even brings the kids along to play while she works, and xh comes and helps sometimes too. I guess we get used to the abnormal!
I gotta say Jeff, if I didn't know your whole story and just stumbled on your post that you had a date one night with a woman and then went and had dinner at your inlaws with the W and kids.....well....wouldn't that be pretty weird too?? LOL
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.