WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

[confusedinpa]

OK I found Kalni Sunshine and sent an invitation.

So how does that get me to the group?

[givingitmyall]

GivinIt MyAll

Try "GivingIt MyAll" looks like the g was left off - could have been my typing.

[confusedinpa]

GivinIt MyAll

Try "GivingIt MyAll" looks like the g was left off - could have been my typing.

You have a friend request.

Now how to get to the group....

[confusedinpa]

now that I have looked back at what has transpired in your life over the last little while, I will be praying for your strength ...your strength to remain calm in the face of this storm. It is the devil's storm and with the Lord is where you are to take shelter for maximum safety and security. Like all storms, especially very harsh and violent one's ...it's apex will be on it's way in a flash.

You got my email skyjockey70yahoo if you care to make use of it for anything bro' and you have tons of support all around you. There are no surer hands than God's andhe stands ready to catch you lest you fall bro'

Keep your wits about you just keep things as simple and as undistorted and slow as you want them to be. You and the family as a whole will get all kinds of prayer support from me and others. like in any storm ..get hunkered down for max protection..

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cipa ..sorry for repeating myself, but......

I just friended you on FB

[MrBond]

Yep been there done that. I don't think I called my W anything as nice as 'pig'. I believe the words I used rhymed with 'door', 'punt', 'pitch'...things like that.

The thing is that I found a note in my W's car when I was cleaning it, professing her love for her boss, he was her soulmate, etc. blah blah blah. Then when I confronted her with it, she told me "how dare you clean my car!" It's so laughable now.

Your W is in the same place. There next phase is that your W will either:

1) do a 180 and apologize, says she was "lost", etc.

or

2) become the most evil person you have ever seen. Blaming you for EVERYTHING from how you hurt her to you make the sun not rise at the right time.

The worst is yet to come. Stay steady and don't let your emotions get the best of you. You still have to be nice to her for your boys. Always remember that. You cannot disrespect her in front of your kids.

Which leads me to the DNA test. IF you subject your son to this, what difference would it make? Do you want your son to live with the idea that you are not his father maybe? Is that going to make you love him any less? Is this going to destroy their idea of their mom?

Take these things into consideration. I know it's not going to make you love your kids any less, but think of how they are going to be with this knowledge in the future. If you were your son in question and your dad and mom were in the sitch you are in now, how would you feel? Worthless because you're a product of an affair? A bastard child? Take all that and think about it.

[confusedinpa]

2) become the most evil person you have ever seen. Blaming you for EVERYTHING from how you hurt her to you make the sun not rise at the right time.

I believe she will choose option 2

[confusedinpa]

Which leads me to the DNA test. IF you subject your son to this, what difference would it make? Do you want your son to live with the idea that you are not his father maybe? Is that going to make you love him any less? Is this going to destroy their idea of their mom?

Take these things into consideration. I know it's not going to make you love your kids any less, but think of how they are going to be with this knowledge in the future. If you were your son in question and your dad and mom were in the sitch you are in now, how would you feel? Worthless because you're a product of an affair? A bastard child? Take all that and think about it.

I can't really say as my dad left when I was 1 month old.

I just don't think I will be strong enough to do the "honorable" thing if he isn't mine.

I had thought 6 weeks ago when I lost my job that things couldn't get worse. Once again I was wrong.

I don't want to think about anything else....

[MrBond]

Okay I think you need a kick in the @$$ right now.

Do you love your son? YOUR son? The one who has looked up to you since the day he was born, the one who you helped change diapers for. the one who looks you deep in the eyes and calls you 'daddy'. That son.

Do you love him?

I believe you told me that you would do anything for your boys. YOUR boys. Don't you dare start backpedaling from that. He looks up to you and sees YOU as his dad. To him, YOU are his father, no one else.

F*ck honor. Do you love him?

[confusedinpa]

Damn it - you made me cry again.

I do love my boys.

I would do anything for my boys but I can't forgive her for what she has done (the cheating, the lying, the blaming, and the crap!).

Thanks for the hit Stuck!

[MrBond]

Good for you. I think we all need that from time to time.

Forget about your W. You've FINALLY detached. Now it is time for you to be the rock for the boys to hold onto when Hurricane WAW hits.