I dunno, it was s'posed to be temporary, for 90 days, but in mediation W said she agreed to attempt reconciliation, but also said she needed to keep the finances as they were so I agreed at the time - hoping that by now things would have changed. That was back at the end of January.

Our D day has been moved out to 2nd week of October...so I'm standing by waiting to see what W wants to do. What it did was to buy me time to do some hard core DB'ing... Been seeing some good results (slowly) - especially when I look back to the earlier days in March and April. Man is it a SLOW process. I'm still not out of the woods yet - she says she needs more time to think about things... Why does it take so darn long for them to do that???

We're coming down to a time/money crunch in a few weeks, so I expect movement of some type to happen soon...


Me: 46
W: 46
M: 9.5 yrs
D4, D9
D filed by her 11/3/08
Agrees to try rec at mediation 1/28/09
Says she still wants D in counseling 3/25/09
W and I back in DB counseling (!) 8/20/09
3rd Bomb 9/2/09