In Limbo

[ginab1966]

Hi:

I'm very new here. Joined today in fact. I really, really wish that I had some words of encouragement. All I wanted to say is that I am right where you are. In the same house, living with a man who says he doesn't love me now nor could he imagine ever loving me again. He wants nothing more than a divorce and his freedom. So emotionally detached that I cannot imagine being able to draw him back. But I love him and will do whatever it takes. We have a 4 year old daughter who is so beautiful, wonderful and special. It breaks my heart to know that I might not be able to fix this and it's definately, partially my fault.

I saw you post and and have read everything all the peeps have given you for advice and I'm almost living vicariously through your post (I finally posted today to the newcomers area). What I mean is I'm using the advice you are getting. I"m so new at this and what you are being told to do seems so hard but you're giving me strength because you're doing it and doing it so well. You've had moments in there where you've sort of fell into her trap but I'm just so proud of you and hope that I can remain strong too.

I've been saying that I've been in limbo too but someone reminded me at a meeting last night that I'm not in limbo. I know just what I want and where I'm heading. H is the one in limbo. He may want a divorce and to be out of the house....but he's still there. And as long as they are we still have some hope, right? Even when they leave I guess there's hope.

Well, I know I'm rambling but I just wanted to say that tonight when you close your eyes, just know that there is someone who is going through the same things as you and hopefully that will give us both strength. Our children and our marriages deserve our committment...100%. It may not be pretty or even "ok" but we're in it. I just hope we get what we're praying for.

Take good care of yourself. I'll say a prayer for you and the boys and for her too.

Gina